You Pregnant, Sis: Is He Gonna Stay or Dip?

Let’s talk about it because too many of us are out here betting on vibes and promises that don’t hold up when it’s time to be real. Picture this: he’s whispering all the sweet stuff, telling you he wants you to have his baby like it’s some badge of honor. And maybe you’re thinking, “Okay, he’s serious about me. He wouldn’t say that if he wasn’t ready.” But then the test turns positive, and suddenly he’s ghosting harder than your last situationship. Now you’re left holding all the responsibility, trying to figure out how you got here, and he’s out here living like nothing happened.

This isn’t about judging, but we’ve got to stop taking men at their word without checking if their actions line up. Saying he wants you to have his baby is easy. It’s giving fantasy, not reality. But raising a child? That’s a lifetime. It’s waking up for feedings, covering bills, showing up every single day. If he’s not even consistent in texting you back or showing up for the little things, what makes you think he’s ready for the biggest thing?

And let’s be real: some of these men know exactly what they’re doing. They talk a good game, play on your emotions, and then dip when things get real because they were never ready in the first place. They wanted the idea of being a dad without the responsibility of fatherhood. Meanwhile, you’re left with a life you never expected to navigate alone.

We’ve got to stop gambling with our futures, thinking we can change a man or hold him accountable for promises he made in the heat of the moment. If he’s not showing up for you now, adding a baby to the mix won’t magically make him step up. A man who really wants to build with you will do that with or without a pregnancy. He’ll prove it with actions, not empty words or pillow talk.

So before you let someone’s sweet nothings turn into a lifetime of everything, take a step back. Look at how he’s moving now. Is he consistent? Does he keep his word? Is he emotionally and financially stable? Is he even showing he knows what being a father really means? If the answer is no to any of that, you’ve got your answer.

Your worth isn’t tied to being someone’s baby mama or chasing the dream of a family with the wrong man. You deserve stability, love, and partnership that’s built on mutual respect, not promises made in the moment. Don’t let someone’s temporary feelings lock you into a permanent situation that only you have to carry.

You deserve better than a gamble. Bet on yourself first, sis. Always.