When Love Moves Faster Than Common Sense

Okay, so here’s the remix. Our girl meets a guy, and sparks fly faster than a Black Friday sale. By the end of the night, they’re looking at each other like, “You’re my soulmate, and God approves.” No courthouse, no legal papers, just vibes—and a verbal commitment that they are now husband and wife. To them, this isn’t a cute phase or a game. They are married, for real… at least in their hearts and minds. Sixteen days in, they’re posting “anniversary” selfies and calling each other hubby and wifey.

Let’s get into why this kind of situation screams precarious, shall we?

First, let’s acknowledge the elephant in the room: calling something marriage doesn’t make it marriage. Love is beautiful, and faith is powerful, but marriage is more than exchanging vows on a random Tuesday. It’s a partnership that thrives on communication, shared values, and knowing who you’re building a life with. And that takes time. Otherwise, you’re just playing house with someone who might not even know your middle name.

So why do some women fall into situations like this? Sometimes, it’s the allure of instant connection. The idea of meeting “the one” and skipping all the awkward in-between stuff is intoxicating. No need to figure out his favorite color or whether he eats ketchup on steak (a red flag, by the way)—you just dive headfirst into a fantasy where everything feels perfect. But here’s the problem: the fantasy always crashes into reality. And reality is messy.

For some women, this rush to “marriage” is rooted in vulnerability. Maybe they’ve been hurt before and crave someone who won’t leave. Maybe they’ve bought into the idea that they need a partner to feel complete. Or maybe it’s pressure—from family, society, or even themselves—to settle down. Whatever the reason, it can lead to decisions that feel good in the moment but come with major consequences later.

Let’s talk about those consequences. First, there’s the practical stuff. Without a legal marriage, you have zero protections if things go south. No legal recourse for splitting assets, no guaranteed rights to make medical decisions for each other—nothing. Then there’s the emotional toll. Building a life with someone you barely know often means discovering deal-breakers way too late. What if he’s not who he said he was? What if his financial habits, family dynamics, or even his hygiene (because let’s be real) are deal-breakers? And let’s not even touch on what happens if kids get involved. The stakes only get higher.

So, what’s the lesson here? First, if you find yourself swept up in a whirlwind romance, hit pause. Take a moment to ask yourself some tough questions: Do I really know this person? Have we talked about values, goals, or how we’d handle challenges? Have we built a foundation strong enough to sustain us when things get tough?

Second, don’t let anyone—or anything—pressure you into rushing. Love doesn’t come with a deadline. Real love waits, grows, and strengthens over time. If someone’s trying to fast-track you into a lifelong commitment without putting in the work to earn your trust and build stability, that’s not love—it’s a red flag wearing a tuxedo.

Lastly, know your worth. You are already complete. A relationship should add to your life, not define it. Build something real with someone who is ready to match your energy, honor your values, and meet you at the altar with something more than promises and vibes.

Marriage is sacred, yes, but it’s also serious. And no matter how much faith you have, no matter how strong the feelings are, it’s worth doing the work to make sure it’s built on something solid. Because let’s face it, no one wants to be on Day 17 of “marriage” wondering why their “husband” is still on Tinder.

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