Understanding Men: What They Want Vs. What They Say

Girl, let’s talk about it. If you’ve ever found yourself confused by what a man says versus what he actually means, you’re not alone. It’s like they be speaking in riddles sometimes, but trust—there’s a pattern to the madness. The key? Stop listening to just words and start peeping the actions. Because men will tell you anything, but it’s what they do that speaks the loudest.

A man can say he wants a strong, independent woman, but if his ego gets bruised every time you make a decision without him, sis, he doesn’t actually want that. He wants a woman who looks independent but still needs him to validate her every move. He might say he’s not ready for a relationship, yet somehow, he’s always in your space, enjoying girlfriend privileges without the commitment. That’s not confusion, that’s strategy.

Men aren’t as complicated as they seem once you start recognizing the patterns. If a man wants you, you won’t have to guess. He will move mountains, cross oceans, and send “good morning” texts consistently (not just when he’s bored). He will make it clear that he values you, respects you, and wants you in his life. If you’re stuck wondering where you stand, that’s your answer—he’s not standing next to you.

Here’s the real game: stop giving energy to mixed signals. Stop wasting time trying to decode what he means when he says something. If his words don’t match his actions, believe the actions. If he says he’s not looking for a relationship, believe him the first time—don’t stick around hoping he’ll change his mind. If he only pops up when it’s convenient, don’t make him a priority.

You are the prize. You bring the table, the chairs, the ambiance, and the meal. Act accordingly. You don’t have to chase, convince, or decode anybody. The right man will show up, communicate clearly, and make you feel secure—not like you’re constantly auditioning for a role in his life.

If you’re done with the guessing games and ready to understand men on a whole new level, I got you. Let’s break it all the way down and get you moving with clarity and confidence. Book a session with me and let’s make sure you never second-guess your worth again.