The Real Glow-Up: How Social Media Helped Women Leave the Nonsense Behind
Social media has been out here blowing up relationships left and right, and honestly, I’m here for it. Why? Because the mess has been exposing everything that men thought they could keep in the dark. All these podcasts and think pieces about women being “too independent” and “not wife material” have done nothing but show us how scared they are. Scared of our power, our freedom, our glow. Sis, they’re panicking because the control they thought they had is slipping, and they don’t know what to do. It’s like watching them fumble the bag, but the bag is us.
The gag is, women aren’t just listening to their nonsense—we’re comparing notes. Social media has given us the group chat of all group chats, and now we know the game. The cloak is off, the audacity is on full display, and the girls are done playing. Black women especially have been peeping how some of these men move, and it’s giving “we’re not impressed.” Y’all out here talking about “passport bros” and running overseas because women in other countries are “better,” but let’s not pretend it’s about love. It’s about finding someone who won’t call you out when you’re acting trifling.
And don’t even get me started on the “Black women are too ghetto and loud” narrative. Let’s make one thing clear: you just can’t handle us. We’re educated, we’re traveling, we’re starting businesses, and we’re living life on our terms. But sure, blame our volume and hairstyles because you can’t measure up. Meanwhile, we’re getting advanced degrees, stacking paper, and redefining what happiness looks like without y’all at the center of it.
The thing is, social media didn’t ruin relationships. It just held up a mirror to what’s been broken all along. Men have been leaning on this outdated patriarchy nonsense for so long—acting like we should be barefoot, pregnant, and grateful for the bare minimum. Provide and protect? Please. Some of y’all don’t even want to split an appetizer, let alone build a life. Women see it now, and we’re choosing ourselves.
The funniest part? Social media didn’t give women independence; we already had it. It just amplified our voices and connected us in ways that weren’t possible before. Now we’re comparing notes globally, and the notes are saying, “Girl, you deserve better.” We’re moving proudly, taking up space, and leaving the drama behind. Men can stay pressed if they want to, but we’re not looking back. We’ve got degrees to earn, trips to take, and lives to build. Dogs and cats optional.
If you’ve been caught up in the noise and need some clarity about your next move, I’m here for you. Let’s chat! Reach out today for a free coaching session and take the first step toward creating a life that’s all yours. No pressure, just real talk.